There are several things I've learned and was reminded of on this trip.
1) Children are like little pools of water. They take the shape of their containers and reflect back their environment.
i.e. Calm adults = calm children. Drunk, loud, obnoxious adults = Chaotic, extremely loud and obnoxious children. However, free and easily accessible candy on a small child height table may not encourage obedient children, no matter how many calm adults you have.
2) The best of intentions can fall short. Sometimes very short.
p.s. But that's totally par for the wedding course.
3) Taking advantage of moments of peace is never a waste of time.
"We have to remember this place when we're sitting in our tiny living room in the city."
"Yea."
4) People will always remember the way you make them feel, and it often takes a deliberate effort to counteract that if its negative.
p.s. However, making that effort can be worth it. If not in the way you expect- then another.
5) Loving someone can sometimes mean doing something they don't like for their own good and accepting the reality that what is right is rarely easy.
p.s. And not unlike parenting.
6) Being needed and appreciated are wonderful things although they should be experienced in moderation.
p.s. And it's kind of your own fault if you become resentful of others "needing" you too much when you do not understand your own thresholds and set boundaries to protect against getting depleted.
7) People cope with stress in many different ways. And larger issues arise when those coping options are taken away.
i.e. "Look, you deal with stress your way and I deal with it in mine. You bitch and complain and I heath bar, beef jerky, chewy spree, nutty butty bars, and pork rind."
8) Bitching about a husband/wife does not equate to not loving them, or even wanting to fix the problem you are bitching about. Most of the times it equates to needing to get it off your chest so you can better deal with it later.
i.e. "Grandma, when is it acceptable to 'slap a bitch'?"
9) The things people value will surface in their interactions whether they want them to or not.
p.s. Prestigious university = Increased worth as human being.
10) The Latin phrase In vino veritas. There is truth in wine. And also relevant is the extension of that in aqua sanitas, which translates to "in water, health."
- Round, round with the glass, boys, as fast as you can,
- Since he who don't drink cannot be a true man.
- For if truth is in wine, then 'tis all but a whim
- To think a man's true when the wine's not in him.
- Drink, drink, then, and hold it a maxim divine
- That there's virtue in truth, and there's truth in good wine! - Benjamin Cooke
- (According to Wikipedia, whose posters must be blasted...)
p.s. A de-cluttered bedroom seems like a small haven of peace after waking up in strange rooms for 5 days.
12) The work you do to understand yourself DEFINITELY helps to understand others and identify things they may be hung up on.
p.s. However, it is rarely socially appropriate to point these things out in public.
13) As tired as you feel, you CAN keep going.
p.s. In case you can't guess what my role was to help out for the wedding...
14) The cure for tired is not more coffee.
p.s. Your body needs nutrients to make use of the caffeine you inject. If coffee stops working, you might want to try eating and drinking water instead! Or maybe sleep. That usually helps too.
AND
15) When you're stressed pimples can feel a lot like moles that have seemingly popped up out of nowhere. But maybe you just haven't been aware of this mole until now?
i.e. "Hey can you tell me if this is a mole or a pimple?" "Yea, that's definitely a zit." "Oh...okay, thanks."
It's nice to be home...
I just hope it's not too long before I need to get my kid wrestling gear on again...
Little snots...
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